Loving Yourself While Changing Who You Are

Love Yourself For Who You Are Today

As someone who has recently sobered up, quit a year chewing tobacco addiction, became an avid reader, rose my GPA by 1.7 units, lost 65 pounds, and went from never meditating to being able to focus on my breath for 45 minute(with severe ADHD), I know a thing or two about making a commitment with yourself and sticking to it. Changing your habits, thoughts, and behaviors is no easy task and without proper knowledge your chances of making a lasting change are slim to none.

Out of all the methods I use to keep myself accountable (journaling, thought record sheets, ect..) the biggest influence on my journey was my attitude.

Your attitude towards life-thoughts, beliefs, emotions-is the number one predictor of whether or not you make the change or not. Your mind is a machine that attracts to it what it has stored in it. If you’re thinking Law of Attraction, you’re on the right page, if not, just keep reading, you’ll understand.

If child 1 asks his/her mother for $1, he/she will likely to get between $0 to $1 than if they didn’t ask. Now, let’s say child 2 asked for $5, the child might might receive anywhere between $0 and $5. The difference is in their personal beliefs of what they deserve. Child 2 will more than likely receive more money than child 1. If child 1 believed they they were worthy of the money then they would have received more than just $1.

So what need to be done to alter our beliefs, thoughts, and emotions.

Changing Your Beliefs

You are enough. You are the golden prize. Love the life you have while you create the life of you’ve always  dreaming of. You don’t have to choose one over the other by any means.

I believe that we all have something inside us that if unleashed, success comes hurdling in. Realize that no matter what stage in life you are in, remember that it is temporary and that you are in the exact place you need to be at. You got to where you are in life because of who you were yesterday. Where you are in life tomorrow depends entirely on who you choose to be TODAY. Are you telling yourself who you want to be and how great you are? Or are you reminding yourself what you should avoid because of your shortcomings.

Change Your Emotional State

Changing your emotional state isn’t as hard as one would think it is. For example, think of something delicious that your grandmother used to make. Some of you just felt joy and happiness reminiscing of spending time with a dear loved one. Others may have felt resentment, frustration, sadness, ect… It all depends on the emotional state you were in when around your grandmother.

See what I mean though, changing your emotional state isn’t as difficult as one may think. I was able to change your state by asking a simple question, you too can change your state of mind through autosuggestion or affirmation, and asking yourself the right kind of questions.

Changing Your Thought Pattern

As you would expect, the difference between negative and positive thoughts  are; negative thoughts are harmful, positive thoughts are helpful. Negative thoughts derail our progress, positive ones speed the process. The problem here is that we are in fact human so it is natural for negative, self-limiting thoughts to come into our consciousness. This is something that everyone, not just depressed people struggle with, limiting thoughts = limited beliefs = limited emotion or worse excess emotion.

When negative thoughts arise you’ll want to take a tip out of best selling author Eckhart Tolle’s book The Power of Now. Eckhart explains that the way to deal with negative and positive thoughts is to

  1. We must observe the thoughts. Be the watcher of thought, not the thinker. A simple way to do this is, what ever thought just popped into your head; acknowledge it as a thought and then decide what to do with it.
  2. Thoughts are not positive or negative, by doing this we attach yourself to thought. The best way to evaluate a thought is determining if the thought is helpful or harmful. Is the thought going to help you reach your goals? Or will it set you back? Will this thought hurt someone else’s feelings? Or will it build them up?

If you’re currently on the path to bettering yourself and you have this wonderful picture of who you want to become. Don’t be like the majority who strive to be better because they hate who they are. Know that you can make changes to you r thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. I hope this was helpful, any questions feel free to leave it in the comment section.

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